Dating is frustrating

10-Feb-2016 05:03 by 10 Comments

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Unfortunately, everyone operates with an invisible road map in their heads of how they think other people should act, speak and communicate.

Today, men are given confusing and contradictory advice.Socially, they are expected to be "compliant" (i.e. However, they are also urged by women's sexual interest to maintain an "attractive personality" (i.e. Unfortunately, men sometimes report that attempting to balance these notions does not result in satisfaction, happiness, or women's appreciation and respect.The men that I speak with (and who commented on my last post) lament about being in a "no win situation" in modern dating.You may have noticed in your daily life that miscommunications abound.You misinterpret a look, someone’s sense of humor or a turn of phrase.This is what I discovered as a customer service rep at JDate in 2001, and it’s the very thing in which I coach private clients every day: writing a unique, confident, specific, self-aware, witty profile that attracts more men and higher quality men; coming up with a one-of-a-kind username that instantly brands you and demands recognition, filtering through the wrong men, funneling the right men from email to the phone to the real life date, keeping a healthy attitude about guys and maintaining an open mind about why they do what they do. In fact, 90% of guys I would never even consider dating.

It’s a lot of stuff, but it’s finite and it can be conquered. Which means that I can’t get upset when I don’t like 90% of the emails I receive.Welcome back to The Attraction Doctor Last week, I discussed why women can't find a "good" man (here).In that article, I explained my hypothesis that women are stuck in a double-bind between what they are told through modern social norms and their own biological motivation.“She looked at my profile first but didn’t wink or contact me. You may have changed your primary photo, which caused him to not trigger that he’s been there before. The fix: You can circle back with a new email weeks later (maybe the timing just wasn’t right), but be emotionally prepared to move on.She must not be interested.” The reality: She may be interested, but she wants you to notice her and contact her first. “He keeps looking at my profile but not contacting me. The fix: Guys, if you’ve looked at a profile and decided you weren’t interested for whatever reason, block or hide the profile so you don’t keep wasting time perusing someplace you’ve been before. Get back up to bat, swing again and work on your messaging skills.And generic profiles and emails often mask amazing personalities.