Dating someone with a terminal illness
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We're dealing with people who know they are facing imminent death.They are aware that their days are numbered and they know, more or less, how long they have to live.
Social worker Barbara Golby gives advice for restoring confidence, setting expectations, and disclosing disease history and shares resources for cancer patients and survivors looking to jump into the dating scene.I was sort of dating someone at the time, but we weren’t tight enough to be a true couple so there were no roses, no romantic dinner, not even a lousy chocolate kiss.Instead, I got the cancer kiss-off a few days later, although in capping our fledgling relationship, the guy swore up and down “It’s not the cancer, it’s you.” Uh … If you’ve lived in Cancerland for any length of time, you’ve probably heard stories of patients getting kicked to the curb after a diagnosis. It’s a common enough occurrence that it’s been studied, most recently by Fred Hutchinson Cancer Research Center clinical researcher and Seattle Cancer Care Alliance neuro-oncologist Dr. Sadly, women diagnosed with cancer are about six times more likely to get separated or divorced than guys who get sick, mostly likely, Chamberlain said, because men aren’t as “well-equipped to be primary caregivers.” And that may well be true.He’s the same age as I am (24) and, from what I’d seen when we were closer, led an active healthy life. As the conversation progressed, he added more details about hospital visits, damage to his spine, how he was unable to walk and about how his parents were helping him with very basic functions.This was a lot more detail than I was comfortable with and the tone was beginning to shift to wanting me to pity him or to come back into his life.Though many cancer patients have the same questions and concerns, no two relationships are the same.
A younger person with goals of marriage and children — and potential mates who may have had little experience with serious illness — probably has different dating concerns than an older person, whose potential partners might very well be dealing with their own health issues.Since the break-up, he has only initiated contact with me when he knows that I am single.In our conversations, this friend has given me a lot of detail about how the cancer has impacted his life, but very few details on what type of cancer it is or what the prognosis is.He has told me that he doesn’t want to know how long he has to live and I respect his position.He has hinted that he wants us to meet and perhaps to restart some romantic activity.Susan, a stage 4 breast cancer patient, and her brand new husband Jeff, shortly after their wedding in July 2016.